“We cannot know, other people’s private thoughts and actions, so we compare our insides to other folks’ outsides — we don’t allow ourselves the life-altering knowledge that we are so far from alone. Our inner most expressions, thoughts, and behaviour are the true norm. Only we don’t talk about it.” – Panache Desai
So often we find ourselves scrolling through our newsfeed and comparing our lives to those around us.
Most of the time we don’t even know these people intimately, but we assume from their pictures and the wonderful “things” they have that they must be wonderfully happy, that they are completely perfect, or they must have life so easy.
Even if we do know them closely, that doesn’t mean that those people have been completely honest with us about what their lives are REALLY like.
Do any of the following thoughts sound remotely familiar?
“Her husband bought her an SUV… I wish my husband earned more money so I could also have a new car”
“He’s always wearing new clothes, while I have to wear my old clothes everyday”
“She gets to be a stay at home mom… I will never have that :(“
“She has such a killer bod! I wish I had more time to exercise. Life is so unfair”
The odd thing is that we all know, at least intellectually, that “things” and “conditions” won’t bring us happiness. But unfortunately, we’ve been steeped in a culture so heavily mediated that we’ve started believing the lies. As such, we always want MORE. Even when we finally get what we wish for, after a week we’ve already lost interest and found something else to obsess over the lack thereof.
So my message to you today is, “Stop looking around you and start diving into all that you have to be grateful for”. In the end, it’s the key to building a life that feels good on the inside, and that’s the only place that matters.